autistic-patti

Saw this on Facebook today (from the page "Hvppyhands")

And it brought up a memory.

When I was young, I would close my eyes on swingsets and imagine I was Latias from Pokemon. I think I may have even been imitating Latias's vocalizations from one of the Pokemon movies.

I've always been afraid of heights, and could not have enjoyed the swings with my eyes open. But by closing them, my imagination gave me an experience so wonderful and memorable enough to remember over a decade later.

I wonder, if people had known then that I was autistic, would they have decided that was "inappropriate play" and tried to force me to have my eyes open? Or at least force me to explain what was in my mind that I was enjoying so much? If they'd known I was autistic, would they have turned a joyful memory into trauma?

seriouslyfuckallofyou

I was diagnosed when I was 4. Yes they would have.

palindromordnilap

Allistic people don’t have a conversational stack

palindromordnilap

For those of you with acquaintances and family members living with allism, you might be familiar with, and getting tired of, such things as:

Being met with confusion upon restarting a conversation topic that had been interrupted earlier, and being told that “this conversation’s been over for a while”
Having a lapse in memory for one reason or another, and asking “Wait, what were we talking about? No, I mean, before that”, and having your acquaintance with allism express confusion at any distress about not being able to remember that
Being reminded of something by the current conversation, bringing it up, and being met with allistic signs of distress and complaints about “changing the topic”

As it turns out, this is because of the oft-overlooked cognitive symptoms of allism! You see, the average non-allistic person will have a sort of “mental stack” to keep track of conversational things like, most obviously, the topic of the current conversation. What this means is that, essentially, you “pile up” new topics on top of the previous ones, and once you’re done talking about one, you “take it out” of the stack and you can then resume the previous conversation.

People with allism won’t do that. Of course, anyone can get memory issues hindering the proper function of that mental stack, but allism leads to a complete lack of that stack altogether. Once they start talking about something else, the previous conversation is over. Completely. This can be somewhat debilitating in day-to-day life, so here are some tips to accomodate that when talking to someone with allism:

Talk about one thing at a time, and one thing only
Avoid shifting topics, unless they do it themselves or it’s clear that they don’t want to talk about the previous one anymore (look for extended periods of silence!)
If you do want to bring something up, instead of interrupting the current conversation, try to make a note of it to bring up later!

If anyone in your life has allism, I hope this will help you communicate more efficiently with them. Take care!

seriouslyfuckallofyou

God I feel so sorry for neurotypicals. God bless 😇😥🥺 I hope we can find a cure

auti-things

I made a thing

(Feel free to repost to other social media sites/apps. Just leave my credit in the picture. Thx)

seriouslyfuckallofyou

I’m a woof noodle

kashmirichaiwithmehr

this hurts me so much

seriouslyfuckallofyou

This is basically just putting a target on this man’s back. You think people will treat you better if they know you are disabled? Before you were just acting weird. Now you’re a threat. That man is dead hands down

servantparent

can we stop mocking people who hissed at others/bared their teeth as a warning in their childhood years? it’s not funny to call them freaks. i did that. because nothing else was EVER. respected. i could tell them to stop and they wouldn’t, literally only hissing/trying to bite got ANY freedom.

and guess what! i’m autistic. i didn’t learn the ‘proper’ ways to respond to things until much later. and a lot of kids who do that are neurodivergent and have NEVER been given respect. you mocking them isn’t gonna help shit all.

next time you think of it as cringey, maybe take a step back and think about what you’ve done to earn a reaction like that. because reactions like that are used to express fear and discomfort in animals. and you probably haven’t listened to ANY of the signs before that.

seriouslyfuckallofyou

It took physically attacking these people to get them to stop. Even if it just finally made the teacher notice. Crying hysterically? Everything is fine. Self harm? Just a quirk. Finally standing up for yourself? Holy shit we gotta put that down as quick as possible

orniidiien

yall with adhd or autism or such ever just get…. bored. like so Painfully bored. like its not “oh hehe i was so bored and i made this” to flex or “oh im so bored bc i have nothing to do” but like a “i am physically incapable of ending this horrible understimulation with any activity i might attempt” and its genuinely fucking painful

seriouslyfuckallofyou

It’s called apathy and it will suck out all your motivation and joy until you feel like a walking puppet. It’s fun. I’ve had it for 4 years now. Hopefully I’ll kill myself soon

orniidiien

yall with adhd or autism or such ever just get…. bored. like so Painfully bored. like its not “oh hehe i was so bored and i made this” to flex or “oh im so bored bc i have nothing to do” but like a “i am physically incapable of ending this horrible understimulation with any activity i might attempt” and its genuinely fucking painful

seriouslyfuckallofyou

It’s called apathy and it will suck out all your motivation and joy until you feel like a walking puppet. It’s fun. I’ve had it for 4 years now. Hopefully I’ll kill myself soon